Principles · drhayes.io

Be accountable and take responsibility: Everyone cleans up their own mess, sometimes with help.
Comparison is the thief of joy: Comparing yourself to others is a great way to beat yourself up for no gain.
Compassion and curiosity: Don't judge; listen. Don't assume you know; ask.
Dont wield weapons forged by the right to fight the culture war': I refuse to use soundbites and catch-phrases created by right-wing pundits in my discourse.
Give a fuck: The joy of life springs from caring and being vulnerable.
Identify the goal: Progress is impossible without a goal.
It's better to build an intuition than it is to rely on rote practice and memorization.: Training our brains to spot the patterns in our solutions is better than maintaining an ever-growing rolodex of piecemeal solutions.
It's okay to make mistakes: It is literally impossible to learn anything without making a mistake and correcting it. So go ahead and make mistakes!
Just listen, don't fix: When someone is telling you about their personal problems, maybe they don't want solutions right then.
No hot takes: Strive for what's right instead of just finding what's funny or popular.
Perfect is the enemy of good: Perfection is an unobtainable goal; its pursuit is admirable but, taken too far, can be detrimental.
Practice self-compassion: Remember to treat yourself compassionately as well; you're often your harshest critic.
Put on your oxygen mask first.: What good am I to others if I don't take care of myself, first?
Stop dunking on conservatives online when they say dumb things: Don't score points, raise the level of discourse, stop gawking at the metaphorical staged roadway accidents while someone else passes you on the road.
There is no "just": Don't make assumptions about the difficulty level of things others are doing. Or about things you haven't done yet.
User requests are what computers are for: The computer doesn't ask the user to do things, the user asks the computer to do things.
We're all in this together: It's hard for everyone. Be kind to each other.
Words mean things: The words we choose matter and carry weight.